(Just a little something to think about over the weekend.)
Ever wonder how the world truly sees you? We are all guilty of skewing the view when it comes to assessing ourselves. Some things we blow WAY out of proportion and other things we underestimate. As women, I think it is innate behavior to be critical of ourselves. This process of learning-to-love-myself that I have chosen to go through has me thinking about such things. Has me diggin’ deep to find out why I choose to go down the road of self-loathing when the path to self-acceptance is a much more pleasant journey. Am I really as bad as I make myself out to be? Is all the self-criticism warranted? Lately I have been met with comments, statements or questions regarding this subject. And it got me to wonderin’ just what I look like from the other side. Do others see what I see? Do they really see that wad of jiggly bits plastered on my hips? Are they aware of the unruly rat’s nest atop my head on any given humid day? Do they place as much importance as I do on the mound of muffin top spilling over my jeans? Are my wrinkles a nuisance to them or do they actual view them as something more pleasant? Like maybe signs of a very happy life…remnants of miles and miles of smiles? Of course, we’ve all been privy to the cursory compliment. That one issued as a obligatory response to some comment made by ourselves…you know, the compliments we are sometimes fishing for without ever realizing we are that desperate to hear. But I’m beginning to think, despite those token compliments, we are not what we think we are when looking through the eyes of others. And that, my friends, is a good thing.
Today I have a little challenge for you. Whoever you come in contact with, take a second to really look at them, recognizing the wonderful things you see but may take for granted. Now here’s the challenging part. Take the time to apply that same concept to yourself. Take one thing that bugs you…you know we all have at least one thing. Me, maybe I have more than most, but that is another story. Even the most self-assured person has at least one thing that is the bane of their existence. Now, reframe your thinking. Think of it in terms of how someone else would most likely see it. Instead of “fat, jiggly bits”, maybe I could stretch it to “wonderful, womanly curves”. Rather than “lady with a hot temper”, I could become “passionate and deep thinking”. Get the idea? Then smile. Add to your laugh lines. Cause life is too short to always be critical of ourselves. We need to put on those rose colored glasses from time to time when we look in the mirror. Take time today to give yourself some love…I DARE YA!